Contrary to popular belief, just because a woman is turned on doesn’t necessarily mean she’s going to get wet. When a woman is aroused, her heart starts working double time and her vagina becomes engorged with blood, triggering certain glands to release their own natural lubricant. However, when it comes to anal sex, what most people don’t know is that the process is actually linked to how much estrogen a woman has in her body, not how aroused she is, and that lower levels result in less fluid production and can actually lead to the walls of a woman’s vagina getting thinner, the combination of which can make sex painful- sometimes excruciatingly so.
Although women’s estrogen levels drop naturally as they get older, it can also happen during breastfeeding, perimenopause, menopause, if they smoke cigarettes, right before and after they have their time of the month and during times of emotional stress. When these kinds of things are going on it can be hugely beneficial for a woman to use lube for anal sex when having intercourse in the anus. The problem is, that a woman’s vagina is also very absorbent, due to the same process that allows her to get wet, so anything that you use has to be safe and as natural as possible and certainly clean and bacteria free.
The best lube is silicone based lube because it is too unnatural for the body to absorb it. It is gradually worked out of your system through the same natural process that gives us our periods. They also stay slippery longer than the usual products so they are great for use for marathon sex and also great for use in water (hot tub fun, anyone?)
The downside is that silicone bonds to silicone so unless you have invested in glass toys, you can’t use it with them without running the risk of damaging the toy and having to throw it out.
Another kind is the water based lubes, which are the most common and widely available. They can be used with condoms, sex toys and wash off really easily. They also can come in flavors and are usually safe to use with oral sex and can be absorbed by the body without a risk of infection.
The downsides are that they can dry out very quickly. You have to be careful with them as well because some of them contain glycerin which can cause skin irritation and yeast infections.
There are also completely natural ones, that are based off aloe vera. But they dry out quickly and can also cause skin irritation if they contain things like belladonna, damiana, or even rose oil.
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